You know to see a doctor for an ache or cough that won’t go away. But where can you turn if your relationship needs a shot in the arm?
For some couples, professional counseling is the answer. “Studies show that, in the hands of a good counselor, marriage counseling is successful 70- 80% of the time,” says William Doherty, PhD, LCSW. Doherty is a professor of family social science at the University of Minnesota.
This is a type of psychotherapy. This helps couples of all types recognize and resolve conflicts to improve their relationships. Through couples counselling, you can make thoughtful decisions about rebuilding your relationship or going your separate ways.
Some couples seek marriage counselling to strengthen their bond and gain a better understanding of each other. It can also help couples who plan to get married. In other cases, couples may seek counselling to improve a trouble relationship.
This includes issues such as:
- Communication problems
- Different goals and values
- Life changes
- Lack of trust
- Sexual difficulties
- Conflicts about child rearing or blended families
- Substance abuse
- Financial problems
- Work-related stress
The list is not exhaustive and every situation is unique. Whatever the concern is, couples counselling can be an incredibly helpful step forward. Sometimes speaking to someone with no connection to yourself or your partner is all it takes for you to pain some perspective, with the added bonus of having the skills and experience to guide you through your concerns.
Source: Mayo Clinic
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